Small moments add up

[00:00:00] **Aurooba Ahmed:** Well, hello! This is The Daily Five with Aurooba, that's me, where we reflect on creating our best lives a little bit every day. Here we go.

[00:00:15] I came up with like five ideas for today and scrapped them all. So instead, I'm gonna tell you what's on my mind and we'll just see where it takes us for the next few minutes, yeah?

[00:00:30] My spouse got a haircut today. He walked in the door and grinned at me widely and said hello. The haircut was a surprise for me, because I love it when his hair is all freshly lined up and trimmed. He used to go to whichever barber or stylist was available, but one day he went to one, and when he came back, I loved the haircut.

[00:00:51] Next time he needed a haircut, he went to that same person, although I didn't know it. Once again, he came back, and I marveled at the haircut and loved it. Ever since then, my husband goes to that one stylist who does his hair the way I like it. It's a simple and small thing, but I love the haircut. And apparently, my husband loves delighting me with his haircut. It is a win win situation.

[00:01:19] I think all matterful things are made up of a collection of small moments that may not be significant on their own, but put together paint a beautiful picture. Love, trust, friendship, great collaborations, beauty, a perfectly functioning system of any kind.

[00:01:38] The straw that broke the camel's back is such a violent and awful phrase. I quite like camels, by the way, although 6 year old me nearly had a heart attack when the camel she was sitting on got up and she almost toppled because she wasn't holding on correctly, but I digress. It does, however, make such a perfect point. Everything is made up of smaller things. Smaller moments, both positive and negative.

[00:02:08] If you have a collection of negative moments, One sweeping positive moment may not be enough to wipe out all the negative. If you have a collection of positive moments, one sweeping negative moment may not be enough to wipe out all the positive. Sometimes, yes, those sweeping moments are big enough, but usually they aren't.

[00:02:31] And you can brush a problem under a rug, many problems under a rug, for a while. But eventually there will be a big lump you shall keep tripping over. Sometimes my spouse likes to joke that he's putting a few good moments in the bank. Just in case a bad thing comes along. We laugh, but I mean it's true. We have more good moments, positive moments, than bad ones, and that's why we have so much trust, friendship, and love between us. And keep in mind, good moments don't have to do with your situation or environment. It's about how you act in those moments or environments that makes it good or bad.

[00:03:16] I honestly don't know where I'm going with this. Maybe I'm saying that, um, we all have limits for how much bad we're willing to endure? And that those limits are not written in stone and can grow or shrink depending on the new moments that are coming in. Or maybe I'm just delighted by my very excellent spouse, who brightens my day daily, and I wanted to talk about that. Or maybe it's about the fact that some author named the capital of hell Pandemonium in some play back in the day, which literally translates to Land of Demon, and thought nothing about it probably, and now it's a real word in the English dictionary, and it means chaos. It was probably just a moment for the author, and then it became this big thing, because we never know when the small seemingly tiny thing will balloon into something bigger. Which is why those small moments matter so much.

[00:04:17] But now I'm just wildly extrapolating and or just telling you about things I learned and saw today. So we'll just end it there for today. Thanks for listening! Same time tomorrow?